If you know me, you’ll know I never make any New Year’s resolutions. Simply because I am weak and never stick to them. The last time that I made a resolution was on New Year’s Eve when I was 17 and swore to quit meat. 10 minutes past midnight, I was eating a kebab (I eventually did stop eating meat on a hot July day in 2006 and never ate it since but still). However, I feel like 2016 taught me a lot and mainly reaffirmed my belief that I should nurture my relationship with myself a bit more. So I’ve decided to do some things throughout the year in order to make myself happy and to make 2017 rock!
See new places
I have a tendency to travel to places I’ve already been. I’ve been in London five times or so and while I love London, there are other places to see too! This year I want to go to places I’ve never been. I already have a sixth London trip planned but other than that I plan to explore new places this year.
Read more books
In 2016, I didn’t read that many books and I really regret that. I only read during vacations but I want to prioritize books this year. I tend to get stuck with Netflix or HBO shows because it’s just SO easy, but reading gives me so much more. Jacob got me the Harry Potter book set for Christmas and I’ve already started. I just love being so caught up in a book that I simply can’t put it down.
You might be thinking “Oh, what a cliché!” but hear me out. This is not a resolution to work out more but simply to continue working out – yes, even BORING cardio. I love lifting weights in the gym with some old-school hip-hop in my ears. It makes me feel strong and most importantly it keeps my back problems in check. I never feel bad when I work out, I am in the moment, focusing on what’s in front of me: the weights and the amounts of reps and sets I need to do. And even though I hate doing cardio, I love the rush I get when I walk out of the gym. So for 2016, I will continue to work out, not because I need to get in shape but for the sake of my mental health.
Stop thinking about consequences
I have a tendency to over-think stuff. Before I do something, I tend to think about the different scenarios in which it could play out. The what ifs and the buts tend to dominate my inner conversation and it usually ends up with nothing. I realize that this is not something that happens overnight, or even in a year but I do plan on keeping this in mind.
Say “No” and “Stop”
I was always taught to be polite. To smile and nod. To do things for others. But I’ve become rather sick of it during the past few years and I’ve gotten better and better at saying no to doing things I don’t want to do. I’m better at speaking up when I hear someone pull a sexist or racist joke. But I plan on getting even better. I’m going to say no more, even to people that I’m afraid of hurting. I’m not going to stand there and listen to people tear women apart or using the N word or talking bad about Muslims. I’m not here for it and I am going to make that clear.